I am currently in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend of nearly five years. Yes, it is extremely difficult at times, but has helped our relationship grow in so many ways. Before I jump in to how we manage the distance between us, I feel like it’s necessary to share our love story from the beginning!
Martin and I both attended the same high school, and it was a really small school because it’s a private school. So we knew of each other and saw each other pretty frequently at school. We didn’t actually start talking until the end of my sophomore year (Martin’s junior year because he’s a year older than I am), and our friends were the ones who got us talking to each other. Once we started to talking to one another, we instantly hit it off! It’s a feeling I can’t explain- we both just connected so well. On June 23, 2015 Martin asked me to be his girlfriend and our love took off from there! I got to cheer him on at every football game, we went to prom together, and saw each other every single day in our school’s hallways. Martin’s senior year was coming to an end, and he would soon leave to go play college football at the University of Mary Hardin Baylor, which was nearly three hours away from our hometown.
Don’t get me wrong, I was so proud of him and was excited for him, but no one wants to see the person they love move three hours away. A part of me wanted him to stay, but I knew that true love cannot be based off of selfishness. Before Martin had to leave for college, we both had fears. We thought that it might just be too hard to stay in a long distance relationship, but ultimately decided that we were going to make this work. And that is exactly what we did. I went to every one of his at-home football games. I only got to see him for a day or two before I had to drive back home to go to school (It’s my senior year of high school at this point.) I did this for the entire football season, and his team won the championship that year! That next semester, Martin decided to pursue a career in aviation, so he moved back home for work. Our time together was cut short again when I graduated and would go attend college at the University of North Texas, which is about 2 hours away from home.
What A Long Distance Relationship Taught Us
So, now I am senior in college, and Martin and I have been in a long distance relationship for 3 years. It is definitely the hardest thing I’ve ever done, but our relationship is better because of it. Through our long distance, we cherish every moment we are together. We are able to focus on our relationship and quickly get over silly arguments, because neither one of us wants to spend our time together fighting. Our relationship is stronger than ever because we both have time to work on ourselves away from each other.
Long distance has taught me that if you truly love someone, nothing will stand in the way. If you both want the relationship to work, then the both of you have to put effort in the relationship. Martin and I try to see each other every other weekend, and we will switch off driving to each other. I honestly don’t even mind the two-and-a-half hour drive anymore! On top of putting in effort to see each other whenever we can, we both trust each other. This might be the most important part of being in a long distance relationship. When you’re away from your significant other, you can’t know what he/she is doing every second of every day. You have to trust in the relationship that you have with each other. Without trust, there is no partnership. Long distance taught me how to be alone, and how to love myself for who God made ME to be. I am not defined by our relationship- I am defined by God’s image of who He has made me to be. This is what makes our relationship last. We are two individuals that love who we are, but know we are better when we are together.
You Can Get Through It
Martin and I are proof that if two people love each other, nothing will stand in their way of being together. If you are in a long distance relationship, you can get through it. I know its hard, especially when all your friends get to see their significant other everyday, but God is putting you two through this for a reason. If you both want the relationship to work, you will find a way. The distance never gets easier, but learning to spend time with yourself does. I have met some of my best friends because I chose to go to college two hours away. I had to sacrifice seeing Martin everyday so I could better my education, and I ended up gaining so much more than I could ever imagine. Some of the greatest things in Martin’s and I’s life happened when we were apart, AND THAT IS OKAY! Martin would’ve never won a championship if he didn’t go play college football, and I would’ve never met my best friends if I didn’t go to UNT. So, go after that job, go to your dream school, or go travel the world. If your significant other truly loves you, they will support all of your dreams.
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